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Sep 05, 2012
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by: mrsncook

Homeschooling isn't the first and only cure for bullying, and it should not be taken lightly as a decision for a family. The first step to bullying should be to tell the bully that you don't like what they're doing and to have the self confidence to stand up for yourself. The second step is to tell your teacher and your parents so they can intervene. If that doesn't resolve the issue, you have to talk to the administration (principals) and school board to file an official complaint that things need to change. It also depends on the severity of the bullying and if your life is in immediate danger.

My children were bullied in school, and I spent several years trying to encourage change. It didn't work at all in the school they used to go to. After homeschooling for several years, they're back in school and we ran into the bullying again. My daughter is confident enough to stand up for herself, but there were times I didn't feel enough was being done by the school. I didn't like how teachers were more concerned about my daughter being a snitch than about stopping the bullying, and it escalated into a racial incident where a girl attacked my daughter. At that point, I marched into the school and demanded change. In those situations, fighting to change things helped. Students know not to mess with my daughter, because she will stand up for herself. Students also know we have our daughter's back and are not afraid to talk to the school if something happens.

As for the concentration, there are other options to try first. Talk to the teacher about being switched to a different seat, ask about quiet study time, or talk to a counselor to see if you have an attention issue. My one daughter has an attention issue and needs a quieter space, so she's put in areas where people also need a more quiet atmosphere. Reducing the distractions around her really helped, and she has techniques to use when things get too noisy.

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Sep 05, 2012
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by: mrsncook

ho says you won't be able to see your friends? Don't they have weekends off? Sports? A playground you get together at? Just because someone is homeschooled does not mean they are in the home all of the time. And if that's a concern to you now, then that's a decision you have to weigh before you make your choice. Will you really be happy at home by yourself all day if you're concerned about friends? Some people think homeschool would be great, but they find being alone all day maddening. Sure you can do lots of things with other people, but there are stretches of time where you have to study independently.

"1. One-one-One tutoring 2. A customized education"
I agree with these, because I found it helped my children a lot. Being able to work at their pace really helped them. Unfortunately now that they're back in school, they're bored. My girls say, "We did all of this a couple of years ago. I already know everything they're teaching. And we did..." So having done it in depth at home means their transition is very boring to them a lot of times. I have to remind them that it's an adjustment, there are some things we learned and some things we didn't learn, and they just have to hang in there when it's a repeat for them.

"3. More opportunities for character building"
Why do you feel your character needs more building? What do you hope to accomplish if you homeschool that has not already been accomplished?

"4. Less peer pressure 5. No "School" work"
This does not mean there is never any peer pressure. In fact, we often got aggressively interviewed by others, even complete strangers, demanding to know what my children know and trying to prove my children were not on the same level educationally as "a real school". There is a lot of outside pressure. It may no longer come from kids your age trying to talk you into smoking, but you have to be prepare for the frustrations of life.

As far as work, we did a lot more than kids in school did. I was much stricter, I expected more of my children because I knew they could do it, and I've known several people who have said their children return to school and say they like the teacher better, because the teacher is nicer. If you think there isn't any real school work, think again. It's DIFFERENT. There isn't any actual school work like schools do, but there is still a lot of work.


Sep 05, 2012
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by: mrsncook

"6. More flexibility 7. More spontaneity"
I agree with this, because that's one reason I hated to stop homeschooling. We could do what we wanted when we wanted. I enjoyed doing lessons later at night before bed or on weekends. Every day was a learning day, every experience was a chance to learn. I didn't have anyone telling me I couldn't, the kids weren't old enough, they would cover that in a different grade, etc. For us, homeschooling worked, because we like to groove to our own tune.

8. Curriculum that complements your faith values"
Yes, homeschooling can definitely be more faith based. There are other ways to get that faith education, like Sunday school or bible study. For some families, they want to incorporate god into their lives. For instance, English could be using sentences from the bible to identify nouns, verbs, etc. It depends on how religious your family is.


It sounds like you've been thinking a lot about this, and I hope your parents are receptive to discussing this with you. It's a big decision and not one to take lightly. I've seen many people "try homeschooling" and find out it's not right for them. Either their children are truant, and they think it'll stop truancy charges. Well, your children still need to work at home. Homeschooling doesn't mean you can sit and watch tv all day just so you don't have to rack up truancy charges. I've seen people who were unhappy with a teacher, or whatever they were unhappy about, and they brought the child home for a week determined they wouldn't have to work with someone unpleasant. After a few days, homeschooling failed miserably and they told everyone home horrible homeschooling is. Homeschooling is a commitment. It is not something to try out for a few days without thinking it through. If it doesn't work, you have to be committed to keep trying, because it takes time to find the right fit. Perhaps online classes (public school at home, not homeschooling) are too strict and the person needs a more flexible curriculum. Perhaps the packaged curriculum wasn't structured enough and the person would fit better with an online course (public schooling at home) instead. I've seen people try it for a little while, but the parents aren't committed to the time and energy of overseeing the curriculum. Learning at home requires the commitment of the parents to teach their children, whether to oversee online courses, teach packaged curriculum, or to make curriculum up, and not all parents can or are willing to do that.


Sep 05, 2012
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by: mrsncook

hen you discuss with your parents, be sure you look into the options available. It would go a long way towards your argument to be able to tell them that you want to learn online, public school at home, where everything is set up for you and teachers educate you. You can tell your parents how you can log in at set times, follow what they have planned, and how you plan to dedicate yourself to your lessons. If their commitment is minimal, it might work better for everyone. Or perhaps you want a packaged curriculum like Abeka and can tell them that it costs more but is worth it because ___ and that you're old enough to learn more on your own with some oversight from them. Perhaps your parents are completely on board and can come up with a curriculum for you, using museum days for history, taking art classes, getting involved with sports, etc.

You also need to know your state laws and how hard it would be to homeschool. Here we have a very difficult home education office who doesn't like to follow the law, demands things that aren't required by law, has given me a hard time every year and made it almost impossible to homeschool peacefully. I'm doing the right thing, and it is very frustrating dealing with them. One of the most important things to homeschooling is to know your law. If you choose to learn at home, you also need to know what your parents would be willing to contribute. I spend more money on school supplies and clothes now, but I still had to buy a lot of stuff for homeschooling. I was also fortunate to receive a lot of great stuff from other homeschoolers. Last year we tried online school to prep for BOM (brick and mortar) school this year, which meant no cost to me.

I hope some of this may help you in your decision. For us, choosing to homeschool was the best decision we could have made and really benefited the girls. Good luck with your decision and with whatever you choose to do next! Happy schooling!

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