Teacher and Mom of 4 Highly Capable Children Shares Why Homeschooling is Bad
Seattle public school teacher shares why she thinks homeschooling is bad...
There is a hidden curriculum in public school. A curriculum that you will not find on state assessments or lesson plans. It's called how to be a member of a large complex social group "society". A society where "don't judge a book by it's cover" is so often used that we forget why. Because we are judged every minute of every day by friends, peers, clients, even the cashier at the grocery store. If you do not understand proper chain of command (who to go to first and why), following directions of those placed in charge of you, or trying to be a part of the society in which you live. This includes proper dress, dealing with peers in small and large groups, dealing with adults on your own, understanding that your sense of "syle" may need some rethinking unless you enjoy being made fun of. How about puncuality and attendance, keeping a smile when you don't want to smile, dealing with people of all types every day in every capacity. You learn not everyone loves you unconditionally, maybe the "bedazzled" pants you love is a poor choice for a 6th grade boy, and yes you must finish your homework when you are too tired to think. Someday you may have a legal brief due and have to work all night, even though "homework isn't fun" and may detract from your quality time exploring a museum.
We have exactly 18 years to do our very best to prepare our children for everything academically, socially and beyond,for the world in which THEY LIVE. Last time I checked that world was a very big place. We must groom ideals into them such as perfect attendance, pride for their social group like the school's football team or drumline,
wanting to be a part of something bigger than themselves. This will serve them well as CEO's physicians and leaders. The ones who don't like having to wait for Johnny before moving on, may start a lesson late because they were up at an event late the night before have no idea how unforgiving the real world is. So unless you plan to keep them in a bubble with you forever get involved and support your local public school, spend all that extra time you seem to have being a volunteer. Allow your child to experience the society they live in or you may be limiting them to a subculture of people who just CAN"T fit in.
Sure there are a few homeschooled kids that are awesome (way to go mom and dad) but I have seen many homeschooled students who attempt to go to public high school and a large majority are like a fish out of water. They missed their learning window and may never be able to be a part of the social world that is thriving around them.They do not speak and are filled with anxiety or they are so inappropriate they have had referrals for aspergers. Apparently their newfound independance learned as a homeschool student will tell them it is ok to not fit in as an adult and feel like they have always been close but miles away. We live in a social world and these children are being pulled from the structure to placate their parents need to prove their "selfless" unconditional love. Perhaps the kindest gift is teaching children the hidden curriculum of how to live in our world with 7 billion other social creatures.Hi Karen,
Although I disagree with many of your points, I do appreciate the time you took to share your opinion with others.