Reasons Why Homeschooling is Bad: Think of the Child

by Samantha

Reasons Why Home Schooling is Bad

Reasons Why Home Schooling is Bad

I think that homeschooling is wrong because think of what the child is giving up. A homeschooled child will never go to prom, have school plays, and be a normal kid. The kid loses so much of a childhood, and things/events that they will never get back.


Thanks for sharing why you think homeschooling is wrong, Samantha; I appreciate your thoughts. Although homeschooled children do give up certain public/traditional school "perks", many enjoy homeschool proms, graduations, perform in theater productions, play on sports teams, etc. just like any regular student. Not all of these events and opportunities are available to all homeschooled students everywhere, however the availability continues to increase as the homeschool movement grows. Blessings, Heather

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Jul 19, 2010
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My boys are just as busy as public school kids
by: Anonymous

My boys can do all the things their public school peers can do. Currently, they are involved with Cub Scouts and sports and they take classes in art and gymnastics. They are active in their church youth groups. They have friends just like their public school friends and they see those friends often. Unlike their public school counterparts, they don't have to come home to 2 or 3 hours of homework in between those classes and miss out on family time. They don't have to miss weekend activities because of big school projects, either.

Jul 19, 2010
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Say what?
by: Mrs Dani

I do not know where you are getting your info sweety but it is so wrong, I am not sure where to start. Homeschool kids have bands, drama groups (that put on productions), sports teams, proms, dances and so much more.

Homeschool kids miss out on none of the those things. As a matter of fact, because they are not stuck in a building all day and come home to hours of homework they are able to do so much more..like really getting involved in a sport, hobby, charity work or even just go out and play. My kids will sometimes just go out and swing and climb trees unlike the normal public school kids who are stuck inside doing homework.

It is the public school kids who miss out and can never get back their childhood because they are stuck behind some desk!

Jul 20, 2010
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Think of the child (Part 2)
by: Samantha

I only say this comment because I was home schooled all my life and I never got to do anything that the kids in school did. It was not until I was 16 that I went to college and felt like I missed out on so much. Maybe people had it different then me but this is just my view on home schooling based on what I went through and how I felt.

Jul 20, 2010
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so sorry but not homeschooling's fault
by: Mrs Dani

I will be blunt. I am not trying to be mean, but truthful. In order to miss out on everything you stated either you or mother made the choice to.

You are blaming homeschooling which was not the culprit. And I have news for you, there are plenty in public school that miss out on the Prom, sports and many other things due to family beliefs, finances and sickness. Going to public school no more guarantees that you will do all of the things you stated than homeschooling guarantees you will not. It depends upon your family and their situation.

If you felt you missed out on things, then you have learned a valuable lesson to make sure your own kids do not miss out; regardless of the education choice you make. And please stop blaming homeschooling for the choices (good and bad) that your family made.

Jul 24, 2010
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Oh my..are you serious?
by: Anonymous

Ever here of a co-op? Try to educate yourself before judging. Oh and by the way, I do not consider missing out on hazing, and school violence, peer pressure, a loss. Take some time to teach and nurture your own children.

Jul 26, 2010
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re: why homeschooling is bad
by: Anonymous

All three of my children play on a basketball team, involved with a co op, my oldest does drama. From my perspective my children have a greater opportunity to expand on what makes a child a "normal student" Our lives are just as busy as any other ps kid. I really would love for someone to really study homeschooling before they comment. I am a product of public schooling and i also fostered a child for 9 mos and she was in public school. So I am able to give an educated opinion. I believe there are ups and downs to any education choice. By far homeschool still keeps the #1 spot for us as a family. The bond a lone is worth it.

Jul 29, 2010
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Something else Samantha
by: mrs dani

Again, this goes back to what I said in my 2nd comment. This young lady seems to have a bad misconception that if she (or any kid) goes to public school that she would have been able to partcipate in all she listed. You have a great deal more chances to do things when you are homeschooled then going to public school.

I went through my yearbook with some friends from my class. We determined (and these are rough estimates) that only 70% of our class went to the prom,only 30% took part in sports classes, only 10% were in band, less than 2% went on the senior trip and we think about 85% showed up for graduation ceremonies; in other words Samantha, not all the kids in HS were able to do all that is listed. Some did not have the money, some had family illnesses, some had family beliefs, some didnt care.

My kids this year were able to travel with their father on buisness. We spent 4 months (hotel, rental car, &food paid for) in Houston, TX; the 4th largest city in the country. They saw more artwork in the musuems in ONE WEEK than most people see in a lifetime (Monets, Picassos, Reniors, etc)! We got to go to a rodeo & ranch where they rode all sorts of animals. They saw the Alamo and so many other things I can not possibly list them all here! They made some incredible friends! ....only a few homeschooled! We were home less than 3 weeks before we were shipped to Nashville, TN for a 2 weeks. They would have never had this chance if they were in public school.

I know you feel you missed out on a lot but instead of dwelling on that (and becoming bitter) think about the good things you did have! As an abused kid, I found this was the only way to survive what I had been through and find happiness in life and to LIVE a good life.

God bless sweety and I wish you well. I hope you read this and it helps you.


Sep 22, 2010
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homeschooled means you miss out on life?
by: Anonymous

Yeah, Maybe you miss out on some things, However I was homeschooled my whole life and I went to a public school prom my junior year with my boyfriend. They do allow people to bring "outside" dates. I was in ballet, soccer, took music lessons and even had a band. I was surrounded by friends and people all the time (mostly children who went to public school themselves). I dated and I went out with friends. I got my GED and now I am in a 3 year relationship with a wonderful guy, in college to be a social worker and I have two jobs. Personally I feel that if I missed out on so much in life by being homeschooled...then I would be slightly less happy and succsessful in life. I do however feel that I grew up to be more mature and resepctful of people and I am much more invulved with my family then most. But yes your right it is a terrible thing isnt it. It all has to do with your personality and how you are, and how your raised..Not so much how your schooled.

Oct 22, 2010
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Homeschooling
by: jon

This is exactly what I would expect to hear. Samantha, you can't post things like this without getting swarmed by homeschooled moms. They will defend it and tell you how wrong you are but in reality.... It is just them trying to justify why there kids are stuck inside the house "protected" from the world and becoming social outcasts. It is VERY dangerous to homeschool a child. I personally can tell whenever a homeschooler applies for a job and often times (almost all the time) they are not hirable because they can't function with clients, can't work well with people, and can't act "normal." It is just not fair to the kid.

Oct 22, 2010
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Adding to jon post
by: Brian

I was homeschooled from 2nd to 8th grade. My mother taught me, did co-ops, and she has been teaching prior to my education for 10+years. And when i went to take a placement test to get into public school i failed and had to repeat the 8th grade. Even though i frequently had exposure to other children they were homeschoolers as well. Which means it didn't make a difference at all. Diversity is the key word in this case. You may want to protect your children from drugs, peer pressure, and all that jazz but in reality if you block them from those things now they will likely just end up doing them later. Expose them now while you can direct their lives and tell them how to live before they turn 18. Otherwise when you turn them loose in college they will go out of control (for all you moms im sure your child's an exception). the only kids in public schools that do all of those " bad things" are the ones with poor parents. Ive known 7+ outstanding public schoolers and the key element in each of their lives was good parents. So do your kid a favor and put him in public school and make sure you become one of those amazing parents.

Mar 02, 2011
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Please, Jon and Brian
by: Laura

I know this discussion was a long time ago, but anyways... I was homeschooled my whole life (I'm just about 18 now). I graduated when I was sixteen and a half, after going through Algebra 2. I considered going to college to become a nurse, but decided against it in the end. When I applied for a job at a local convenience store, I got the distinct impression that I was hired because the manager knew I was homeschooled. Anyways, what I also want to say is that, homeschooling parents don't just 'block' their children from bad things. They teach them what is right and what is wrong, and instill morals in them (hopefully from the Bible), so that they will have an inner conviction when they do step out into the world. My parents did not let us go to the prom because of our beliefs. We probably would have gone to homeschool co-ops if there had been any near us, but there weren't. I made a friend when I was seven years old, and we are still best friends to this day.
Not only that, but my siblings and I are very close (especially one who is two years younger than I am), and that is the exception, not the rule, among public school siblings, while it is the rule among homeschoolers. I learned to read at about five and a half, and my first chapter books were the whole Little House series! I am not saying any of this to brag on myself. Rather, it's more like bragging on my parents, and I'm also saying that it almost certainly would not be this way if I had gone to public school. Do I feel as though I've missed out on anything at all? Not a bit! I think I've greatly benefitted, and I am very thankful to my parents and to the Lord that I was able to homeschool.
Thankfully, it seems to be catching on among those in power, as well, which is making the regulations on homeschoolers much lighter. I plan to homeschool my own children, from day one to graduation day, and I'll thank people like you two (and Samantha, who started all of this) to keep your noses out of our business :D

Mar 03, 2011
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Samantha, I totally agree
by: Sarah

Samantha, I am you. "Homeschooled" my whole life until I went into my Junior year of high school at 17 and had less than a 9th grade level education prior to that. I never properly learned how to write an essay. Never preformed a proper science experiment. Never learned how to play a musical instrument. Never got involved in a team sport(or any sports). Never went to a dance until my senior year of high school. Was never in a talent show, never in a spelling bee, never in a math competition, never in a school play. I KNOW AND UNDERSTAND that NOT ALL homeschools are like this, however some ARE, and I agree that this is a sad thing for children to go through and to not have all the super fun memories that MOST people have.


Mar 03, 2011
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Consider This
by: John Orr

In the 18th century a child was only required to have 3 years of formal education. George Washington, and many other children, had only 1 year of formal education. George still had a healthy childhood.

Just because he was schooled at home does not mean he did not socialize with other children of his time. I am sure there were dances and some type of sport he might have played.

Though George Washington had only 1 year of formal education he went on to help establish a nation that has lasted for over 233 years. That is pretty good for someone who was home schooled in his youth.

Mar 03, 2011
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I married a Home schooler!
by: Anonymous

My wife was home schooled for all of her high school years, and I was home schooled for 2 years. , My wife has told me numerous times how home schooling robbed her of some of the most memorable times of her life. High school is about a lot more than just getting an education, going to prom, and playiing sports. What about all the great time students have screwing around in study hall, the hall ways before and after class, and all this small moments that add up to build some of the greatest friendships and life experiences you can ever have. I'm not saying home schooling is wrong, I was home schooled for two years as well. But I am saying that absolutely depends on the kid not the parents! I have never met a home school family that didn't home school all of their children. And just because it works for one doesn't mean you should subject the rest of your children to that lifestyle. I have personally gone to public school, private school, and I was homeschooled. And personally I have respect for all three in the right situation. If you want the best education for your kids than you should put them into public school. Public schools have better budgets, with more areas for your kid to find his niche (wood shop, ag classes, computer classes, film classes, etc.) I absolutely know that my best and most educational years of school took place in public schools. If you want to push Biblical principals on your kids than you should definately put your kids in a private school. I attended many years at christian schools, and I absolutely increased my theological education (to a much deeper level than I would have through a Bible study or church setting). And finally, if your kids life is spent traveling with the family, wooking on the family farm, or whatever might be keeping the kid from going to school then obviously you should home school your kid. I think that this should be up to the kid. If you have kids, than it is your responsibility to give that kid the best life that you can, and if that means making lifestyle changes than so be it. But just because you think it is a good idea to home school doesn't mean you are right. You absolutely have to keep an open mind, and there is definately no single type of schooling that is above the others. I would say that they only thing that I see that stands out as a high light to those years that I was home schooled, is that I did my school work in about half the time of a full school day. This gave me a lot of time to spend outside being a kid, but I did end up being really bored until I went back to public school. I hope this helps.

Mar 10, 2011
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Proud to be a homeschooler
by: Anonymous

Excuse me but I am homeschooled and I go to Youth Group (which has plays and clean dances),I go to Swim practice, and I have just as many friends as a public schooled kid would. And, are you saying that I'm not a normal kid???? I get just as much education as they do AND I think it's better because you don't need to worry about bad peer pressure,bullies,and you get 1-on-1 teaching. So I beg your pardon.

Apr 11, 2011
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I find this article offensive
by: Anonymous

I am currently a 10th grade homeschooled student, and I find this article offensive. I understand that you may have had a poor experience with homeschooling, but that does not mean that you have to bash it. I have actually played soccer for my local high school since Jr. High, and I have many, many public schooled friends. On another note, as far as socialization goes, I feel that most homeschoolers are even better at socializing then public schooled kids. Because we as homeschoolers have to interact with all aged people, not just kids around our age. So next time you decide to write and article, maybe you should check your viewpoint first. Thank-you. :)

Apr 12, 2011
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Be Nice!
by: Heather

Just a reminder... all posts and comments are moderated. Your post will be deleted and you will be banned from posting on homeschoolsavings.com if your comments are inappropriate, or degrading in anyway.

You can share your opinions and experiences to help others, but please be nice! :)

Thanks!
Heather

May 20, 2011
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Homeschool isn't a good thing.
by: Anonymous

Why you shouldn't homeschool or be homeschooled?

1. Wake up parents! Being at home for a big chunk of the day is NOT a good thing!

2. Will have trouble adapting to college life. And they need college. Or their life is messed up with no good experiences.

3. Kids need REAL teachers.

4. Home schooled students will lack exposure to varied philosiphies.

5. They will be socially akward with other people. Therefore, they will be made fun of for not knowing any comebacks or anything.

May 29, 2011
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My thoughts on the topic
by: Anonymous

I totally agree with Samantha. Homeschooler's are missing the chance to be educated by teachers who specialize in that field. They also don't have the opportunity to interact with other students in the classroom everyday and learn communication skills with kids just like them. They also don't get the chance to have school pride and go to sports events rooting their fellow classmates on. Many of the Homeschooler's I have seen do these things with other homeschool groups but what I don't understand is that if you let them participate in those, why not let them go to school? Unless your child has a certain disability that requires him to work from home, I feel that there is no reason that they shouldn't be at school. Some Homeschooler's I know just want to be homeschooled because their parents control their grades and let them do school at their own times. They don't understand reality. They don't have the chance to see that they aren't perfect at everything and that life is not a competition. Once they walk out of their house and head out for college they are going to have a wakeup call! Their parents didn't trust them to make their own decisions out in the real world.

May 29, 2011
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Mrs. Dani here's a response
by: Anonymous

I have a question for Mrs. Dani: If your children do all that stuff why not just let them go to school? School is actually really exciting and we all learn a whole lot! And we actually do have time to play outside in gym and they give recess to kids too. Not to mention sports teams. And we aren't stuck behind a desk all day. Nowadays we will go on field trips, do outside classes, run around outside, go to school assemblies or pep rallies, create movies about the topics we are learning, fundraise for other countries (my school has a walk for Haiti),etc. Your children are missing out on these things and they can't choose for themselves because you brought them up saying school is bad and they haven't gotten the opportunity to try school for themselves and have their own opinions about it.

Jun 30, 2011
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I'm homeschooled and I'm fine!
by: Anonymous

Some of you have NO CLUE what in the world you are talking about! If you think that most parents are unqaulified teachers then you don't know anything about homeschooling, most homeschool curriculems have teachers guides that tell the parents how to teach the lessons. Therefore the child will learn. And what if a parent can't afford private school? Homeschooling is far cheaper. My Mom homeschools me for about $500 per-year. I am in the 8th grade and have done well in every subject. I have all A's and in my state test I got every question right except 1 question in science. I'm not bragging, but sticking up for myself. My best friend who is also homeschooled got a job just fine and is very social. I have been in too many plays to count, I have been in dance, have to dances, basketball, and volleyball.
So what I am trying to say is:
Homeschooled kids are normal healthy kids! And if you were homeschooled and arn't normal then that's your parents fault or yours. This is a free country and if you want to send your kids to public school then go ahead. But don't judge or make statements about other educational options when you don't always know what your talking about.

Feb 29, 2012
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2%
by: Anonymous

If homeschooling is so great, then why do only 2% of parents do it? You're wrong. Homeschoolers are largely uneducated and do not know how to teach their kids difficult math and science subjects. Most kids who return to public school cannot compete in math and science in high school pre-college courses. Teachers report this all the time, but these stats aren't readily available. Plus the "high scores" that homeschoolers get are a false comparison. They are comparing themselves to public school kids from the inner city, which is not apples to apples. I have known 3 or 4 homeschoolers and they all report that their kids are bored, that the time they spend in other activities takes away from covering the difficult subjects that can be covered in public school, and that they are not stimulated enough by others. They are lazier, depressed and fearful. My nephew had to have an EAP after being homeschooled and go on anti-depressants. He was also fearful at Disneyland and other places because he is so sheltered. He has sexist ideas and thinks he is a little adult because he has no concept of what it is to be a normal child. He is around adults all day, except for a few games he plays with other co-op kids which is too little compared to public school. Homeschoolers readily admit that they are protecting their children from other philosophies, diversity and feminist ideals on purpose. The problem with this is that Jesus is into diversity and was a feminist. Homeschoolers are by and large right-wing and closecd-minded. I was brought up right-wing, and I now understand that these ideas took me away from the very Jesus they claimed led them to go to church or homeschool. Homeschooling is a cult that promotes division in society, racism and sexism. Republican values that are contrary to Jesus's words, not love and understanding of all people.

Mar 04, 2012
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and I definately don't miss...
by: Anonymous

You have said that home schooled kids miss out on so much, but I know from personal experience that the opposite is true. Like many have commented before me, public schooled kids spend time behind a desk all day and then go home to 2-3 hours of homework. Home schooled kids take at the most 5 hours to comeplete their work, and that's for high schooled students. Alot of ime is wasted in high school by changing classes, scheduled lunches and bathroom breaks, etc., but home schooled kids finish their work and get to spend the rest of their day filled with hands-on learning experiences, and get to enjoy fun unit studies, as well as time for family, and since you can take yoru schoolwork with you, vacations and educational trips. Their are co-ops and organizations designed to offer home schoolers the same oppurtunites that they would get in high school such as prom, graduation, band, sports, clubs, and the list goes on. I have been through public school, private school, and home school, I've ridden the bus, I've gone to after-school, and I have experienced many things that I wish I couldn' remember, and I caan honestly say that I love homeschooling and its benifits, because I don't miss the bullies, I don't miss the insane teachers, and I especially don't miss the teachers and principles who just don't care.

Apr 15, 2012
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homeschooling is what you make it
by: Mrs. P

Just like anything, you have to work at it. My daughter has been homeschooled since 7th grade and she is now in the 9th grade. She has been to two proms so far, and she is glad to not be in school, to miss out on all the bullies and the peer pressure and the racist teachers and the self esteem issues and the need to fit in and getting up at dark 5:30am to be on time for school( it starts at 7:20am),and the awful pressure to have the right clothes, and the separation and breakdown of the closeness of the family structure because you spend all day at school, and spend half the day doing homework and studying for tests, and the listening to ungodly peers who deaden your heart, and influence you to do ungodly sinful things, etc., etc.

Dec 02, 2012
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Homeschooling is much better than public school in my opinon
by: Happy as a Homeschooler

Hi! I am homeschooled and I love it! When i was in public school I was so bored. We had to make sure everyone knew what we were doing so I relearned the same thing over and over. Now I can go at my own pace. Instead of seventh grade literature I do ninth, pre-algerbra, and eighth grade grammer. You don't have to miss all the other things kids in public school do. You can join a homeschool group which means you can still be social. On top of that we have homeschool proms and graduations. Also,if your kid plays sports there are homeschool teams and community recreational teams. By the way I wouldn't go back to public school if I had to because kids are just mean and I'm a kid saying that! A lot of kids that go to public school get bullied. As you can see you can get everything a kid who goes to public school gets except all the bad things. Mrs. Samantha I have three more things to say. One, if you are not a Mrs and I disrespected you, I am sorry. Two, you are right I am not a normal kid. I am a different, unique, and homeschooled young lady. Three, I do not mean to be rude but I don't think you thought of the child. Thank you for listening and...

GO HOMESCHOOLERS!!!!!!!!!!

Dec 02, 2012
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I'd rather be homeschooled.
by: Happy Homeschooler

I am homeschooled and I love it. I wouldn't go back to public school unless I really had to. You don't have to miss out on things like prom or graduation because we have those too. If your kids do sports they can join homeschool teams. Also we have homeschool classes you go to once a week so your kids can be social. Also most kids that go to public or private schools are bullied and I don't want to be. As you can see homeschooling is actually better. You are right on one thing though. I am not a normal kid. I am a unique, happy, homeschooled young lady. Besides, if being a normal girl means wearing short shorts, low waisted jeans, tall heels, skinny jeans, being obssed with gossip, addicted to a phone, and not loving or being me... I wouldn't want to be one anyways. Also, I don't mean to be rude but I don't think you thought about the child. Thank you for listening to my opinon and...

GO HOMESCHOOLERS!!!!!!!!!!!

P.S.
I wrote one before this so if they both show up I'm sorry!

Jan 28, 2013
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On what jon said
by: CatholiqueFrançaisCamarade

true, it is so funny you cant post these things without getting swarmed by homeschool moms who use unreliable statistics from stuff like rudner, ray, or chang that were funded by hslda and purposely made to make good statistics to make homeschooling look good from doing stuff like giving them option to write exam, using different exam, and also only going to good people for exam. sorry for the english i am quebecois and i speak french and chinese mostly.

Feb 06, 2013
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Prom
by: Anonymous

Our homeschoolers DO have a prom

http://www.midtnhomeschoolprom.com/2013_Prom.html


Mar 22, 2013
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Bwahahaha!
by: ORACLETheCeefax

Look, I'm an 11 year old who's being homeschooled, and I don't miss out on ANYTHING!
My dad still takes me to Chess Club, and to another nice place where I can hang out, so this is utter bull****.

AND, homeschooling has its perks as well! I'm finally an individual, I'm not like a clone. Also, my dad can aid me better in areas that I'm not so good at.

Jun 21, 2013
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Good and Bad Homeschoolers
by: Anonymous

I think homeschooling really depends on the kid. I know a homeschooling family with three kids and all three are wonderful and responsible and very close to the morals and values their parents taught them. However, my neighbor also homeschools her ten year old son. He is an only child and is incredibly unsocial and really just rude. I don't feel comfortable saying it, but I don't think he will ever be able to function as an adult in college and in the real world. He simply hasn't been exposed to how things are. So homeschooling can be a great option or a not so great, depends on your child.

Jan 24, 2014
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I agree that homeschooling is bad
by: Anonymous

I completely agree having been homeschooled missed out on so many things. And yes I am sure that many kids that are home schooled have what many of you said but the oprotunity is not there for activities that are there for children that go to a normal school

Oct 26, 2017
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HS isn't that great NEW
by: Anonymous

Sorry guys, but i have to agree with what this lady says homeschooling from my perspective is not THAT great, I've meet 10 homeschooled kids in my life and ALL of them have REALLY bad social skills, they say weird things that have nothing to do with what your asking them, (again, from my perspective), like one HS kid i was talking to took off! Like all i said was hows it going bud? As u can see most HS kids just don't have very good social skills because they are in home with their parents all day! By the way, i was public schooled my how life and 2-3 hours of work, is bullshit, i was in honors, and never had that much

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