Problems With Homeschooling High School Teens
(Manchester NH.... US)
Problems with Homeschooling High School
I can relate to the woman who feels hopeless about homeschooling. We have six children; one in college full time, one in a local college, and four more at home. We have run into what I consider a pretty "serious" situation regarding homeschooling. Two things in particular are at the top of our problem list. I do not know how to rectify it, or if it's even possible.
Our second daughter, the one in part time school, was actively recruited for D-1 sports. She had a dismal SAT (primarily in math) so that ruled that out. Despite what people say the SAT seems to be everything. She is a 4.0 at the local college. By the time she had graduated highschool she was co-captain of her track team, all-state athlete, and won many awards. Mostly she is a "quiet" leader; the coaches loved her because she was an example by her humble attitude and hard work ethic, never mind the awards.
She is a self taught artist, sings in nursing homes, and works with developmentally disabled children on riding horses, as a volunteer. She cannot get into a four year college. She had a 3.31 GPA, but because of being homeschooled and her SAT no one really cares. We probably should have had her tutored, but we never had the money.
Now onto our real problem; we have a son, who basically has given up. Once he saw what his sister went through, with not being able to get in anywhere he just gave up. He actually runs track for the highschool and plays varsity baseball for them as well. He is just beyond discouraged. He is a junior now, and is so unmotivated, because he feels like it is pointless, and hopeless. He has been tutored in math for all three years of high school, and he is still behind because he just has a hard time with math.
My husband also lost his job, and so the kids are very worried, so on top of his own personal discouragement, we have this looming over us...loss of house, etc. He does blame us for keeping him homeschooled. He feels that he would have been better off in school.
Unfortunately we live in a city school area, in one of those failing schools districts. Almost all of his "friends" do drugs, and many of them don't care about school at all. I really do not think that the environment in there would be good for him. I think it would be just too easy to not care even more than he doesn't already.
He is not very academic. He really is not, and "education" borders obsession today, meaning all of life revolves around it. If you are "body" smart, or very artistic, but can't pass the SAT everything you are good at will just be put on the shelf. He is not super competitive except in sports. He shines there, but now he is even discouraged there because he knows he will never get into a college to even play ball, if his SAT is not good. I just wonder if there is anyone out there who has a child like this. He is 17, and wants to go to highschool for his senior year. He would still have to be tutored in math. Any words of wisdom would be appreciated. Thanks!