Homeschooling and Protective Parents
(South Carolina )
I'm going into the 11th grade this year and I've been homeschooled ever since 6th grade and I hate it. My parents are so protective and don't want me involved in normal life situations. I know they're just homeschooling me because they want me to be safe & they care for me and love me, but they take it too far. They won't let me do anything or go anywhere. I have only 1 friend and she's my cousin & I only get to see her about once every 2 months if I'm lucky. That's as close as a social life as I get. It's really starting to bother me too, especially as I get older. I want the life of a normal 16 year old girl & I just don't have that. I just want to be normal, have a social life, and friends. Is that too much to ask for? I dearly wish my parents would put me back in public school. It's even starting to affect how I function in public. When I get around people I feel so uncomfortable & start shaking. I guess I've just been isolated for so long. I'm ready for something to change.
I’m sorry that homeschooling hasn’t been a positive experience for you. I understand how you think going back to public school would be a solution to your
problems – public school does offer the convenience of easily seeing your peers on a daily basis. As a parent, I also understand why parents choose homeschooling over public education. I also realize that not every parent chooses homeschooling for the right reasons and/or there may be other factors that cause parents to make certain decisions. Perhaps this is true in your case.
Unless families live in out in the country someplace with little access to people, many homeschooled students successfully develop friendships while homeschooling. You don't need to go to public school to be a "normal 16 year old girl". I'm not sure your parent's reasons for not letting you go anywhere, but perhaps you could sit down and talk with them. Perhaps you have already.
I know for my teens, they needed to complete/keep-up with their schoolwork and their personal/family responsibilities (chores, commitments they made) before they could go out or have friends over.
If you are keeping up with your schoolwork, responsibilities, etc. and you have addressed the situation in a respectful way, perhaps you could seek the counsel of another adult you trust. They may give you some helpful advice or be willing to sit down with you and your parents to work out a solution.
I hope this helps, Savanah! If you have comments or need further assistance, feel free to post below.