home schooling makes kids can't socialize well

by Theresia Monica
(Jakarta, Indonesia)

Home schooling learning system has been designed for students who want to study personally. In contrary with the statement which said that "we are social people who need to interact with others", home schooling lets the kids learning, solving problem, and discussing just with their teacher. Home schooling doesn't give chance for each kids to learn how to make a companionship with others, because in home schooling, kids just meet their private teacher.

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May 25, 2009
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Homeschoolers Don't Stay Locked In A Basement
by: mrsncook

In your comments you state that, "Home schooling doesn't give chance for each kids to learn how to make a companionship with others, because in home schooling, kids just meet their private teacher." Home school kids do not stay locked in a basement all day away from the world. If my girls want something that is not available in the store, they have to ask an employee if the item is still in stock. If an item supposed to be on sale, my children show the manager the sales circular and discuss why it is not in stock. If my girls want an item that the store does not carry, my girls discuss the issue with the manager or the employee who handles ordering and asks them to stock the items for us. My girls call people, like their grandmother, to ask if they can spend some time over there and discuss arrangements to visit with them. My girls talk to the neighbors, store owners and employees, police, and church members from the church up the street on a daily basis. My girls might share an event that just happened to them like how they found an injured bird and cared for it, they might report suspicious activity in the neighborhood, or they might ask the person how their week has been. My children can interact with people from infant to elderly, and they enjoy going to the nursing home up the street to visit with the elderly people there and sit and chat for an hour or two. My girls ask city workers about their jobs, like the people who pave the roads or the surveyors mapping out plans for a new building. My girls ask plumbers, electricians, etc all about their job, and they will stop someone and politely ask if they have a few minutes to answer a few questions. My girls will pick up an item someone has dropped and chat briefly while helping them, stop to help someone in the store, discuss something interesting with someone at the library, museum, or wherever we have gone. My children expressed concern for another patient when I was in the emergency room, and they told the family member that they hoped their loved one would get better soon.


May 25, 2009
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Homeschoolers Don't Stay Locked In A Basement 2
by: mrsncook

When my girls were in school, they walked to school and sometimes didn't have time before school to chat with their friends. They went to class, were told to sit at their desk and not speak for the hour, were taken for a bathroom break and told not to speak while in line for the bathroom. They might have five minutes to chat while going to the bathroom. At lunch time, they had a few minutes to chat as long as they weren't overly loud, and they had time to chat for half an hour with their class during recess. Unless they were grounded from recess for reading a book, talking in class, or some other minor infraction. Then recess was taken away, and they were not allowed to socialize. At the end of the day, children ran home. Many children got only an hour or two of socialization with their classmates. They didn't talk much to children outside of their class, and often times those interactions were filled with taunts, teasing, meanness, and bullying; those are not healthy ways to interact with other people.

As a home educating family, my children are able to have healthy relationships with other people of all ages. They are able to express their needs and meet other people's needs in a positive manner. If someone is not being nice, my children are able to let the offending person know that is not a nice way to talk to other people, and my children leave. My children choose who they like to interact with and have learned how to tell who is safe and who is not by learning to trust their instincts. As a result, my children have made many quality friends. Because they get out into the world, they are not stuck feeling inferior to authority or superior to people they can overpower. If you really think home educated people don't socialize, I urge you to see just how many people they talk to on a daily basis and compare that with the 35 people in school that school children are limited to. (Keep in mind that some of those classmates won't talk to the child for one reason or another, children who talk to the teacher are looked down upon as a teacher's pet, and sometimes children are lucky if they have one person they can talk to in school. I know some children who have literally no friend at all in school.) Then you will see just how rich and wonderful a homeschooler's world, and social circle, is.

Apr 03, 2011
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homeschooling
by: Anonymous

Dear writer,
Your view on homeschooling seems to be quite twisted. I'm homeschooled, I know over 200 other homeschooled kids and I'm pretty sure all of us have turned out okay. Of course there are a couple of kids who are not properly taught and just strange, but guess what? There are just as many in normal schools! I believe that I am getting a proper education and I spend a lot less time on it than most public schoolers. Why am I homeschooled? Because my parents WANTED to sacrifice their time and money to provide so much more for me and my siblings than a typical public school education could. As I mentioned before, I do know plenty of other home schooled kids. My home school group puts on a musical every year, has done trips to foreign countries, has volleyball teams(6), soccer teams (2), basketball teams(3), and so much more. I go to sports games, concerts, church, camps, hang out with friends, and parties and I am looked upon as a leader in many situations. I'm not saying all of them but plenty of my homeschooled friends are so much more mature and a better influence on me than the most of the public school kids I know. Please do your research before making such a false statement again.

Sincerely,
A typical homeschooler

Apr 03, 2011
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Really?
by: Anonymous

oh... and you live in Indonesia? I guess it could be different there but in America I think we're doing pretty great with homeschooling...

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