A Mother Trying to Homeschool and Failing

by Diane Clarke
(Toronto, Canada)

Feeling Like a Homeschool Failure

Feeling Like a Homeschool Failure

There is so much to say and not enough time to say it. I am feeling overwhelmed. I feel like giving up on homeschooling, but I know in my heart I just can't.

To make a very long story short, my husband lost his job over a year ago and we ended up having to leave Texas to come to Toronto Canada, where we are presently living with my sister-in-law. We have absolutely no support from all my in-laws or from my side of the family in homeschooling our kids.

My husband is trying to get a job in the states, either in Houston Texas or Florida, etc. in Radiation Therapy (his profession). He is going through a recruiting company, because they would pay the expenses for the interviews, etc. But it is taking long. My husband can't work in Canada legally. He is trying to get back to Houston to stay by my oldest son in their tiny apartment; so he'll take any work for now, until the recruiter can help find him a job in his profession.

We have absolutely no money except what my mother-in-law gives us for gas and a few food items. With all my heart I want to homeschool and my husbands wants our two boys to be homeschooled.

We took them out of school over a year ago, when we lived in Houston because they were being influenced by their peers negatively.

I started homeschooling my two oldest boys in kindergarten and first grade and then we put them in school and they went down a road that was very bad with their friends. They dropped out of school and are struggling now.

I personally feel inadequate to homeschool my boys in junior high; I need tutoring help. I can't afford any curriculum for their grades, so I just have them reading and doing the very basics of arithmetic and I have some simple books from the dollar stores and thrift stores for science and social studies.

My boys are about a year behind. My 13 year old who has A.D.H.D. is very concerned about being behind and wants to go back to public school. He has no confidence in us that God will provide the support and help that is needed to help them get caught up. This is the painful reality that we are faced with and dealing with right now. We are Catholic Christians and our moral values and beliefs are the major reason we homeschool.

Educationally my boys are behind. Morally they have grown so much in character and we have become closer as a family and closer to God. I cannot do it alone! I need help, serious help!

It will break my heart to send my boys to public school. I will not go down without a fight, but I can't do it alone. I believe with all my heart that it is God's will that we homeschool our kids, but I have no support and no help.

When you are poor your options are very little. People usually offer suggestions that you should just do this or just do that, but it is hard to do anything without money and a stable living situation. If you can offer any help in any kind of way, please write me back very soon. Thank you for listening and please pray for my family and me (Brian-my husband, Joseph-my thirteen year old and Joshua is 11 1/2 and Diane-myself)

Also please pray for my two oldest boys as they struggle to get their lives together. One son is in Afganistan and the other is in Houston struggling to find a decent job, because he has not got his G.E.D. yet.

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Aug 19, 2011
by: Anonymous

hi I am impressed that you are all ready homeschooling your children. I have been totally overwhelmed trying to figure out what homeschool program is right.. I know it doesnt seem like it but God is working in your lives. He never lets up on us just because we have money problems,emotional turmoil or we just want to give up. This will be my first year of homeschooling and I dont even know what Im doing.haha. I am homeschooling because my son has been sick. He has been in and out of the hospital and now has convinced me to homeschool him. I really think it will be the best and i am inspired by him and his constant effort to keep trying no matter what his situation. My son is amazing.We recently got better news for him so he may be strong enough to make it through this year with less problem.. Now to you again. Please know that your situation will straighten out. God is our miracle worker and in his hands he will provide us in every way we need. Not always what we want but what we need. I wish I had more info on homeschooling for you but im just starting, there is no such thing as failure when you are trying the best you can. Looks like your children are good kids and you are doing a wonderful job with every prayer you say.I hope if nothing else i have inspired you to keep moving in the direction that is best for you and your children.Keep your faith and wish you were here haha to help me get started. You sound like you got everything going on to homeschool.Want to teach me. ha ha God bless you. Just a little inspiration for you.Along with maybe bringing a smile to your face.Dont get too cold in Canada
burrr.best of luck to you and your family in all aspects.

Mar 01, 2010
reply to A Mother trying
by: Anonymous

thank you for sharing your story. it is an inspriation to me to continue through the rough patches of homeschooling. You certainly are not failing when you see the strength of your children's character. that will help them stand before the Lord..not school work.

that being said, are there public libraries in Canada? I have seen alot of curriculum-type books at the library including grammar and science experiments, etc. They also have a donation box for free books.

You also may want to contact some christian based and/or public schools in your area. when they update their curriculum, many times they throw away the previous year's books away. My sister has gotten alot of curriculum this way. You may have to really try to find someone who is of a giving spirit. some people just don't want to help, but there are some who are sent from God to help provide your needs.

Keep the faith and remember that your struggles bring strength to you and others.

2Cr 12:9 And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.

2Cr 12:10 Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ's sake: for when I am weak, then am I strong.

Feb 27, 2010
Grades of Diane's Boys
by: Heather

Diane just emailed me the grades of her boys. They are in 6th and 7th grades.

If you or anyone you know has extra curriculum in good condition and who would be willing to donate and mail materials to Diane, please contact me.

Language Arts (Grammar, Spelling, Writing, etc.)
Social Studies (History/Geography)

Please spread the word!

Feb 26, 2010
Failing, by whose standards?
by: MsB

If your children have grown in character and faith, you have hardly failed. Those are the 2 top reasons you took them out of public school to begin with. Your family just seems to be getting an extra coat of polish on that faith.

By whose standards are they behind? The workbooks'? The local school districts'? Your relatives'? The only standards to follow are yours and God's. And by the sounds of your persistent efforts to hang in there, you are doing well.

Your situation does sound difficult, but it is through adversity that we shine. Is homeschooling really the real issue here? Or is it mostly the rest of your circumstances? Thank the Lord you are homeschooling at this time! It may be the one thing that holds you together as a family - long after high school graduation, your sense of family will be a treasure, no matter what else comes down the pike.

Meanwhile, do get connected with whatever home school support groups you can - either locally or online. Also, spend as much time in the library as possible - it's full of books, videos and all kinds of information.

Google resources for homeschooling resources for free - there are lots of resources out there!

I am a single homeschooling mother of 3 and the Lord has faithfully seen us through all kinds of adversities. He never fails. Keep your eyes on Him.

Feb 26, 2010
Grades of Your Kids
by: Heather

Hi Diane,
Thanks so much for sharing your situation. I feel for you! Can you tell me what grades your children are in? Perhaps I can try to help find some generous homeschoolers to donate some curriculum they are finished with.

You might want to contact a support group in your area that co-ordinates a bookfair. At a bookfair in our area, needy families can obtain vouchers for curriculum from exhibiting vendors.

Anyway, let us know what grades your children are in for each subject - I know you said they are behind in some areas.


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